We’ve all heard this idea of “your true self.” This idea that deep down in the core of who you are, in your soul there is ‘true self’ waiting to emerge. An indestructible truth, or code that of who you are, and whom you are meant to be. The origin of the word ‘individual’ stems from the idea of having an ‘indivisible’ self.
Out of this belief, a great deal of advice has been given to young people. Search ‘deep within’ yourself to find who you are. To ‘just be yourself’ and to ‘stay true to who you are.’ That you are born with an innate truth and we must spend life discovering it, and through this truth, you’ll discover your life purpose.
What if I told you there is no ‘true self.’
There is no indestructible core.
There is no code of who you ‘really’ are.
That searching deep within yourself won’t uncover innate truths.
Your identity was given to you at birth by society, and you’ve spent those last decades trying to fit those constructed beliefs while at the same time, trying to find ‘your true self.’
That’s right because while there is no true indivisible self, we do have the opportunity to self-create.
We have the opportunity to decide what our true self is.
We don’t need to search deep within ourselves to find what’s important to us. We need to decide for ourselves the essential truths, values and principals we want to live by.
The issue with being ‘yourself’ is that many of us grew up with several “I am – identity limiting beliefs.” ‘I am’ thinking assumes we cannot change. Whether I think ‘I am intelligent’ or ‘I am not intelligent,’ ‘I am athletic’ or ‘I am not athletic’ either belief may stop us from seeking to develop. ‘I am’ creates a sort of immovable self.
Nothing that has happened in your past determines who you will be in the next five years. There is no indivisible self that guides what you’re going to become.
No more trying to find your true self.
You get to create the person you want to be.
You get to create your life purpose.
You can decide to begin that process anytime you want, but the start of a new year gives us the nudge to start fresh.