How often do we fall off the horse?
We set a goal, get all excited about it and focus on doing it with all our energy. We tend to succeed for the first two weeks, even three. Then it starts to fall off course, we miss a day or two, and we start down the dreaded path of doom.
For those of you that were on this writing journey with me from the beginning, you might know that this is my 36th blog post. While for some whom I have only recently added to the list, have seen a sparse few in the last couple of weeks.
I’ve fallen off the horse. I had set the goal to write a short blog post every day, for 60 days straight (minus weekends), and I fell short.
The first time I missed a day I said to myself “I was too busy, it’s okay it’ll just be today.” I got back on the horse the next day.
The second time I missed a day, it turned out to be a couple of days in a row. I said to myself, “well I can’t expect myself to operate at full capacity all the time, it’s too much.”
The third time, I indeed fell off the horse. It’s been exactly 13 days since I wrote my last blog post. After missing four days in a row, I got agitated at myself. Disappointed that I couldn’t keep this simple promise to myself.
As a motivational speaker of some sort, I fear that sometimes people think I never fall off the horse. Truth is I fall off the horse very often. Probably more often than most people. I’m always fighting myself to do the things I set out to achieve.
But here’s the deeper problem.
When I fall off the horse, I get upset at falling off. Then I get upset at myself for getting upset at falling off the horse because I should know better. Then I get angry at myself, for getting mad at myself for knowing better, because I should instead forgive myself…
Mark Manson, the author of “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” names this “the feedback loop from hell.”
I’m writing this to let you know that I’m getting back on my horse.
Also, the horse you’ve been thinking about this whole time while reading this, yeah, that one; you should get back on it too.
- Recognize you’ve fallen off the horse.
- Celebrate that you were once on the horse.
- Understand what happened that result in you falling off the horse.
- Forgive yourself for falling off the horse.
- Get back on that fucking horse.
No horses were harmed in the writing of this post 🙂